i'm pleased to say in this day and age that less and less women are prepared to be the subserviant member of a relationship, be they christian or otherwise.
there is no reason for either member of a truly loving relationship to be in anyway superior to the other. its about give and take. mutal sacrifice and benifit.
even if the bible explicity said (and i know it doesn't) 'smack thy women twice and day and let her know her place becasue she is not as good as a man', would you do it? right now in the 21st century with all the advances of human kind, would you do it because the bible (which was written by MEN hundreds of years ago and is horribly out of date) said so?
i'd rely more on what your common decency and sense of justice tell you than a book.