Well, I wouldn't call it anything more than an attempt at a debate. It's a bit hard to have a real discussion when the other side is more dedicated to attacking a side point - and in a dishonest and evasice way at that.
I agree that the nastiness of the Old Testament God in Joshua (as well as Exodus and Numbers) is a real obstacle to accepting Christianity. It seems to me that the whole issue of the Promised Land and Jewish exclusivity is very much tied into the whole Messiah concept - or perhaps more accurately the concepts that led to the idea of a Messiah which - so far as I can tell - strictly speaking postdates any of the Old Testament books.