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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
quote:Who gave the husbands their authority? Please show me all the scripture where God decrees that a husband has authority over his wife/wives. As a Marine Corps veteran, I understand rank and authority. Since you were in the military, let me ask you this. For the purposes of this question your rank is SGT. OK. You and another SGT (both the exact same rank and both men) are given a project to accomplish. The project has various tasks to complete. Your CO did not specify who does what, just get the job done. How do you and the other SGT decide who does what to get the job done? A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
Genesis 3:16 "To the woman he (God) said, I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in sorrow you shall bring forth children; and your desire shall be to your husband, and he shall rule over you." This is God's punishment for Eve.God didn't say this punishment continued for all women. In reading the OT, God seems to be very precise when he wishes curses or punishments to continue through the generations. Why does Christianity feel this applies to all women? A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
quote:What has been a way of life? A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
Genesis 3:14... So the Lord God said to the serpent, "Because you have done this, cursed are you above all the livestock.... Genesis 3:16...To the woman he said, .... Genesis 3:17...To Adam he said, .... Cursed is the ground because of you;... you will eat of it all the days of your life. Not obvious! Taking the Bible at face value, the serpent and the ground were cursed.Adam and Eve were not cursed. Abel kept the flocks and Cain worked the soil. So Abel didn't work the ground.
Genesis 9:24-25 When Noah awoke from his wine, he knew what his youngest son had done to him. So he said, "Cursed be Canaan; A servant of servants He shall be to his brothers." Noah cursed Canaan, not God and Canaan didn't even do anything.Are the descendants of Canaan servants today? Genesis 11:6 The LORD said, "Behold, they are one people, and they all have the same language. And this is what they began to do, and now nothing which they purpose to do will be impossible for them. 11:7 "Come, let Us go down and there confuse their language, so that they will not understand one another's speech." 11:8 So the LORD scattered them abroad from there over the face of the whole earth; and they stopped building the city. This one is even more interesting. It has been a while since I read this story. But no curse spoken here. God didn't say they did anything wrong, he just didn't like mankind working together to build the first skyscraper. In another thread Why Wasn't Jesus Married I commented quote:and Jex responded quote:So Adam's punishment of not eating meat wasn't carried forward forever. So that should have released women from their punishment also. Flood wiped out everything, we are starting anew. "No" you groan, "That doesn't release women from Eve's punishment because it wasn't mentioned? You can't jump to that conclusion!" (Thought I'd save you a post.) quote:So you don't agree with anything I've said so far and it is obvious to you that the curses continue. Now for the questions:Whose sins did Jesus die for? Those in the past, present, future or all of them? Did Jesus pay the debt and mankind started with a clean slate, erasing all past punishments or do we still bear the burden of the sins, curses and punishments of the past? Has God forgotten the sins, but not the punishments? A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
I asked in Message 114 Whose sins did Jesus die for? Those in the past, present, future or all of them? Did Jesus pay the debt and mankind started with a clean slate, erasing all past punishments or do we still bear the burden of the sins, curses and punishments of the past? Has God forgotten the sins, but not the punishments? You didn't answer all my questions. Your answer to my last question was: quote:I looked up degenerate and found: 1. having sunk below a former or normal condition, etc. 2. morally corrupt; depraved degenerating:1. to lose former normal or higher qualities 2. to become debased morally, culturally, etc. I understand the way CrashFrog used the term degenerative in Message 116, but not sure about your use concerning curses. Are you saying that curses that cause mankind to lose former normal or higher qualities will never end? A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
quote:Much more reasonable. Love it! A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
quote:Help the man do what? The man didn't need help to survive.Since he was to live forever, he didn't need to reproduce. He could talk to the animals and God, so he had plenty of company. What did the man truly need help with? A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
quote: I do think that Christ's sacrifice would have absolved Eve's curse, but interestingly enough, Jesus didn't call for women to submit to their husbands. As seen below the verses covering a wife's position are from Paul or after.
Eph 5:22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Eph 5:24But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Col 3:18Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Col 3:19Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them. 1Pe 3:5For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; 1Pe 3:7You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. My feeling is that Paul and the rest were instructing their people how to live Godly lives within their culture, within their own time. Their teachings benefited their time and circumstances. There are general principles within those teachings that still speak to us today, but not the cultural rules. He lived in a culture of arranged marriages. Love wasn't always part of the scenerio. In today's culture, women no longer hold a secondary position, so there is no reason to hold us to the rules of an ancient culture. Jesus stretched out his hand to raise women up to a higher level. Churches should be continuing his example, not Paul's. Paul is not God or the Messiah. It would be very detrimental for women to truly be in a submissive relationship. My mother followed those rules. It worked fine until my father died. It is hard after 40 years of letting someone else make the decisions, to jump right in and make decisions. She continued to let him make decisions even when he wasn't mentally capable. He made some unwise decisions that impacted her after his death. Now my mother turns to me to help her make decisions. Since we marry for love today and not arranged, there should be no need to tell a man to love his wife or a wife to love her husband. They are coming together as companions, partners.
quote:What is complete biblical submission? I'm guessing the women in Paul's time weren't competely submissive. Someone needs to explain to me how submission is supposed to work in this society, within the laws of this society. A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
quote:Maybe this is another topic also, but how did Christ love the church? What are the characteristics of Christ's love for the church that a husband should show towards his wife? Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. Christ is head of the church, which means what? Christ isn't physically dealing with the people of the church on a daily basis. IMO churches are functioning mostly by what Paul has told them to do.
Eph 5:24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. How is the church subject to Christ? Again not dealing physically with anyone on a daily basis.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, Are we talking about intimate love or just benevolent love? Again how did Christ love the church?
quote:I would need to know what is meant by submission today. I hear the word, but no one gets specific. Why do churches feel that we are bound by Paul's decrees? I know I'm answering questions with questions, but I think what you said earlier about what is meant by biblical submission today needs to be addressed before I can give a reasonable answer. A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
quote:I thought he died for the sins of mankind. Besides, how selfless is it to give up your life if you know you are going to be raised up? For those who believe that Jesus is God, then he didn't give up anything since God is immortal. quote:How did Christ do this since there was no church at the time of Jesus. Again you are dealing with a culture that had arranged marriages. Very different from what we have today. I found an interesting web page: Biblical Submission Within Marriage As the point is made in this article, the Bible does not make the husband head of the household, does not make the husband the spiritual leader of the household, does not tell wives to obey their husbands, and the Bible does not give final decisive authority to the husband.I like this phrase in the article: Nowhere does the Bible say that whenever two or more are gathered together, one person must be in charge. Excerpt from number 11 in the article about submission.
The submission urged upon Christian women today is not the sort of submission that was exhorted of women in the New Testament. Depending on the particular text, women's submission in the NT was either an expression of one aspect of the mutual submission that exists between equals in Christ (e.g., Eph. 5:21-33), or a social subordination that followed from what women were able and expected to do in the patriarchal cultures of NT times (e.g., 1 Peter 3:1-6, Titus 2:5). Unlike the traditionalist-defined submission of women today, the NT submission of women was not a universal, unilateral submission to the husband's spiritual authority.
Now this is obiously not a fundamentalist viewpoint. Give me a sample scenerio of what fundamentalists consider to be submission by a wife in today's culture. A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
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purpledawn Member (Idle past 3487 days) Posts: 4453 From: Indiana Joined: |
quote:Nothing to complain about? Where to begin? Microwave (makes my food unhealthy), TV Dinners (chemical preservatives, unhealthy meat, HFC, sugar), canned food (chemical preservatives, HFC, etc.), Cars (high speeds, dangerous), vacuum cleaners (ear damage, dust). It is harder to find truly healthy food for our families since we don't have as much direct control over our food sources. I have to do medical research so I can make sure the doctor is actually addressing my families' medical needs, so we don't get stuck with useless charges or treatments. Same with mechanical research. quote:It is more like driving from the passenger seat. There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. -Edith Wharton
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