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nator Member (Idle past 2199 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: I've seen a little bit of Japanese porn, and in what I've seen there seems to be much more emphasis upon the woman's pleasure. They feature her sounds and the camera lingers on her face in the throes of passion quite a lot. It seems that, at least what I saw, the big turn on was how turned on the woman was. That kind of scenario is not really that prevalent in mainstream porn over here, am I right?
quote: Yeah, right, you just go on believing that. hahaha.
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nator Member (Idle past 2199 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: I didn't say "all", now did I? You wouldn't be responding to arguments I haven't made again, would you?
quote: I didn't say "all", now did I? You wouldn't be responding to arguments I haven't made again, would you?
quote: I wasn't talking about all men. You wouldn't be responding to arguments I haven't made again, would you?
quote: I never said "only", now did I? You wouldn't be responding to arguments I haven't made again, would you? Let me remind you of what you seem to have forgotten that I wrote:
By no means do I think this is the majority of men and boys, I actually generally get along with men very well, and most of my best friends have been men. Now, I would definitely be using a sexist stereotype if I were to paint ALL men with the same brush, but I'm not, am I?
quote: I agree that people may be using strippers, porn, and prostitutes for the basic, simple reason you state; to get turned on. But I doubt very much that all people who use these things are all using these things for only that reason. I do not believe that human motivations are generally that simplistic.
quote: Many people go to a restaurant to enjoy the food, yes, but they might also enjoy showing off to their companions how much they know about wine, or feel important and wealthy when they pick up the check. Sure, someone might like the comedy stylings of a comedian, but they might also be going to that comedy club to feel more a part of the hip, happenin' night scene in their city. They might go to a scientist's lecture to have some thoughts provoked, but they also might be going because this scientist's ideas feeds their political agenda or religious agenda. Just as people might use prostitutes, strippers and porn simply for sexual arousal, they might also be going there because they are angry at their spouse, or their boss just demoted them, or somebody threatened their manhood and they need to feel manly and important again. People are complicated.
quote: Actually, I think it is you that can't understand many human motivations. I think you state things too simplistically at times.
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nator Member (Idle past 2199 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: I've been to one, and it is not self-evident. I'd like to know what you think men can get at a strip club (other than fake tits, maybe) that they can't get at home.
quote: If I go to one, that will be an example of ONE club.
quote: Many, many men have varrying levels of difficulty with intimacy. (So do many women, but I think, as a group, women are less uncomfortable with emotional closeness) Some men find intimacy extremely difficult and discomforting.
quote: No. It is a matter of degree.
quote: I suppose I am talking about the kind of relationship where one shares their hopes and fears, cares about the happiness of the other, loves and is loved in return, makes a connection at a deep level, not guarded.
quote: Some of them are not, no. Lack of intimacy is one of the biggest complaints women have of their men when in long term relationships. Little personal connection. I think it is slowly changing, but it wasn't that long ago that a married woman got her emotional support from her circle of girlfriends, not from her husband. She just didn't get that from him. A man got his emotional support from his wife, because he didn't have close, intimate relartionships with other men. You just didn't have conversations about your fears with other men; it showed you were weak and was humiliating. That's why men tended to suffer much more emotionally after a wife dies or they got divorced. She had her circle of girlfriends to help her through it in the case of divorce, but the man's only intimate support was his wife. My father had a pretty large group of drinking buddies that he saw every week, but do you think a single one of them came to see him in the hospital when he got his bypass operation?
quote: I think most men are capable of intimacy, of course. Many men, however, do not develop this capability to their full potential. They often don't have to, or sometimes they want to but don't know how. Also, people vary. My parents have been married for close to fifty years, and I have never remembered a time when they haven't pretty much despised each other. They are bitter, bitter people.
quote: Nothing specific, like a source, but this is stuff that I have learned from reading over the years. I can try to look some things up if you like.
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nator Member (Idle past 2199 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: It's emotional parts of the relationship outside of sex that I am talking about. Lack of intimacy is one of women's biggest complaints about their husbands.
quote: Yeah. No kidding.
quote: I'll bet you wouldn't be saying this if birth control wasn't freely available. Children are the "natural" consequence of all of this free and easy sex you advocate; are you prepared to support all of the offspring produced?
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nator Member (Idle past 2199 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
Your claim was that porn actors wouldn't do something in a porn movie unless they liked it, but that's not true. quote: No, it was my restatement of what you wrote in post #158 of this thread: "As for degrading women through porn it is a subjective thing. There is nothing degrading if the woman likes what is happening."
quote: So, it contradicts what you said, which is that "there is nothing degrading if the woman likes what is happening." You cannot know if the woman likes what is happening to her in the film, so how can you say she doesn't feel degraded but is just acting like she likes it for the money?
quote: Right, but this also contradicts your statement.
quote: But you said that there is nothing degrading about what happens to a woman if she likes it, but since people will do things they don't like for money and act like they like it, you have no way of knowing if she feels degraded or not.
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nator Member (Idle past 2199 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
I've never breastfed a child but my sisters have, and they both tell me that their nipples got so chapped from being wet all the time, and that their breasts got so sore from being full of milk that breastfeeding was pretty unpleasant sometimes.
Sometimes they felt like cows.
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nator Member (Idle past 2199 days) Posts: 12961 From: Ann Arbor Joined: |
quote: I don't know where you live, but nobody is complaining about it in the US as far as I can tell. That is beside the point, anyway. Ever since the advent of The Pill and the sexual revolution of the sixties, a whole mythology of it being "natural" for people to have lots and lots of unfettered sex with as many partners as we want was able to propogate itself. It is ironic, because this myth of the "naturalness" of lots of casual sex was only enabled after reliable artificial birth control was introduced. Let me remind you of what you said in a previous message:
Sex, being a natural drive, needs to be satisfied one way or another. Why all the unnecessary relationships and emotional baggage to accompany it? Porn is treating sex as any other activity, the way it should be. Sex is a natural activity for humans. We must remove the obstacles, the expected ceremony, the false mystique surrounding it. This is obviously a post-Sexual Revolution mythology that completely disregards it's origin in The Pill. Sex is NOT "just another activity". It can and does produce children which are a huge responsibility. Previous to The Pill and the Sexual Revolution, much of the "obstacles" and "expected ceremony" that revolved around it before then involved making sure that the male didn't bugger off and irresponsibly not provide for the children he made. This message has been edited by schrafinator, 07-04-2004 09:47 PM
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