The Bible on Sex, Love, and Marriage

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Schrafinator writes:

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To the extent that they both fulfill their roles, they will have a rewarding marriage.

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But see, that's not what the evidence shows.The evidence shows that, by definition, these roles lead to the highest divorce rates among all groups.The lowest divorce rates come from non-believers.

Schrafinator writes:Do you have a best friend? Which one of you has the "authority" to make descisions for your relationship if you both disagree about something?

The model here is that we should love our wives as Christ loved the church.How did Christ love the church?

Schrafinator writes:What kind of adult relationship can you ever hope to have with a woman if you view her as lower than you on the hierarchy?

13 And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.
14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
17 Ye have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment?

But if a husband ultimately has the final say, isn't that an awful lot like a parent/child relationship?When the man and wife, who are both mature adults, disagree, why should the man always have the final say, as if he is the parent and she is the child?That a man should want his wife to submit to his dominance in this way is really icky.That a woman should be taught to always submit to another's will to be a good wife is demeaning.An adult relationship is one where neither person can simply overrule the other's will.