None of your quotes demonstrate your claim that Eziekel was usign SODOM to mean something other than SODOM.
Yes, arrogance was the sin of Judah, and Eziekel was comparing the sins of Judah with Sodom, and pointing out the penalty that God did for Sodom, as a warning it might happen to Judah too.
Re: The phrase 'gone out after flesh for unnatural use' refers to homosexuality,
You know, the destiable things were layed out before them. The fact you want to read homosexual behavior in someplace where it is not stated is just showing your obsession with homosexuality.
You are trying to twist the words into things that are not stated.