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Author Topic:   We youth at EvC are in Moral Decline
Dan Carroll
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Message 46 of 253 (48598)
08-04-2003 11:17 AM
Reply to: Message 45 by Dr Jack
08-04-2003 11:08 AM


This is what happens when you teach people that if they want to have sex, they have to get married.

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Mammuthus
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Message 47 of 253 (48606)
08-04-2003 11:44 AM
Reply to: Message 46 by Dan Carroll
08-04-2003 11:17 AM


...should be teaching them how to have safe sex for fun...and marriage if they need a small tax break ..

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John
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Message 48 of 253 (48607)
08-04-2003 11:46 AM
Reply to: Message 47 by Mammuthus
08-04-2003 11:44 AM


quote:
...should be teaching them how to have safe sex for fun...
You're just wishfully thinking.
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doctrbill
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Message 49 of 253 (48633)
08-04-2003 2:35 PM
Reply to: Message 45 by Dr Jack
08-04-2003 11:08 AM


From the site you cite:
quote:
Donald Hughes, author of The Divorce Reality, said: "In the churches, people have a superstitious view that Christianity will keep them from divorce, but they are subject to the same problems as everyone else, and they include a lack of relationship skills. ...Just being born again is not a rabbit's foot." Hughes claim that 90% of divorces among born-again couples occur after they have been "saved."
Perhaps you witnessed one of the top stories of the religious world, sometime last year I think. It got a big write up in our local paper: Bible Belt Leads Nation In Divorce.
Now we know who's sending this country to hell in a handbasket, Eh Buzz?
It's the Funnymentalists!
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Doesn't anyone graduate Sunday School?

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doctrbill
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Message 50 of 253 (48634)
08-04-2003 2:47 PM
Reply to: Message 33 by Rrhain
08-04-2003 4:58 AM


Rrhain writes:
Bush refused to examine the problem, claiming that there is no possibility of error in Texas regarding the death penalty.
Maybe they do it according to Buzz's Bible?
What is it about my posts that people don't read them? This is really getting ridiculous.
Considering the source of the message, to which you were responding, there is little cause for alarm.
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Doesn't anyone graduate Sunday School?

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doctrbill
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Message 51 of 253 (48639)
08-04-2003 2:59 PM
Reply to: Message 28 by truthlover
08-04-2003 1:41 AM


truthlover writes:
You'll excuse me if I don't put much stock in the AFL-CIO's opinion of who is being paid enough money. I also do not put much stock in the government's opinion of what poverty is.
If you cannot accept statistics generated by these agencies (which actually have access to the raw data), then what can you accept? Casual observation and anecdotal reports are classically unreliable, mine included. So, I look to the data and voila! - The data seems to support my personal experience. Can you offer verifiable alternative confirmation of your impressions?
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Doesn't anyone graduate Sunday School?

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Rrhain
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Message 52 of 253 (48642)
08-04-2003 3:27 PM
Reply to: Message 50 by doctrbill
08-04-2003 2:47 PM


doctrbill responds to me:
quote:
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What is it about my posts that people don't read them? This is really getting ridiculous.
Considering the source of the message, to which you were responding, there is little cause for alarm.
Yes, but truthlover seemed to miss it, too. I specifically mentioned that I was getting my crime statistics from the US DoJ and two people missed it.
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Rrhain
WWJD? JWRTFM!

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Rrhain
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Message 53 of 253 (48647)
08-04-2003 4:15 PM
Reply to: Message 35 by truthlover
08-04-2003 5:57 AM


truthlover responds to me:
quote:
1. What the heck does conservative leadership have to do with anything I said?
That things were better in the "old days" before all of these "liberal" attitudes came into vogue.
quote:
We're talking moral decline over the last 40 years, not the benefits of left or right wing leadership.
But the leadership is part of that decline, is it not? A good leader would do what he could to prevent such decline, yes? Look at the reaction Dr. Koop got concerning his statements regarding HIV-prevention. People were calling for his head. How dare he not insist that abstinence outside of marriage is the only way to go! Never mind that he directly stated that abstinence is the most effective method of preventing HIV transmission...he used the dreaded C-word and for that, he must pay! And to this day, the Bush administration has decided to go with the abstinence-only method of sex education despite all the evidence showing that such education doesn't help and actually results in a higher teen sex rate than a comprehensive education that includes methods of birth control and disease prevention.
That is how the leadership of this country affects the country's morality.
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I used Judeo-Christian in a pretty normal sense that I'm sure everyone else understood. I made absolutely no arguments in defense of it.
You used it, period. I'm well aware that many people use the term and I even understand what you mean by it. I am simply pointing out that it is a loaded word that doesn't mean what is meant by it. There is no such thing as "Judeo-Christian." If you really think that the Jewish and Christian traditions are anything alike, then you really need to do some more thinking.
For example, most sects of Christianity think that being gay is a sin and many of them are organizing to repress the rights of gays. Only Orthodox Judaism agrees...Reformed and Conservative Judaism actually seek equal rights.
quote:
Your links don't even address suicide rates over the last 40 years, at least the ones you mention first.
So why did you ignore the third link I mentioned? The third link stopped at 1994. The previous two deal with more recent developments. Did it not occur to you to put them all together and see how things are going?
quote:
Suicide rates have more than doubled since forty years ago according to the links I gave.
Mine say they're about the same. The early 60s had a rate of about 10-11 per 100,000. The early 90s had a rate of about 12. It's gone down since then. According to the NIMH, the 2000 rate was 10.6. That appears to be back to 1960s rates.
So no, suicide rates have not doubled since forty years ago.
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I also don't know what my comments about broken families have to do with the gay issue you brought up.
Have you not been paying attention to the debate going on the US? The claim is that gay people break families. Look at the attempt to create a Constitutional Amendment prohibiting same-sex marriage. Why? Because "traditional marraige" needs to be saved. To allow people of the same sex to get married will destroy marriage.
For crying out loud...you were the one that brought up the fall of the Roman Empire due to "loose morals." You do know what that means, right? "Homosexuality." That's right, gays are blamed for the fall of Rome.
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Divorce hurts kids, and it has increased "dramatically" since the 50's.
Indeed.
But the question is, what is causing it? And we find that the people who are pounding the "morality" drum are often railing against things that have absolutely nothing to do with what they claim they are fighting for. They rail against gay marriage as if it will have some effect on straight marriage.
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I would never support a gay couple adopting a kid, but that's a totally different topic.
Indeed, but why? Are you saying that a child is better off in the foster care system than in a loving home? Considering that there is absolutely no evidence that being raised by gay parents has any effect on outcome, why on earth would anybody stop a child from being adopted into a loving home? And considering that many of these children were born to gay women, what on earth is the rationale for preventing her female partner from adopting her children the same way a straight woman's male partner would?
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Anyway, this gay issue is obviously a big thing to you,
Only because it's a big issue at the moment. Haven't you been paying attention? Canada legalized gay marriage, the SCOTUS struck down sodomy laws, and Massachussetts is about to legalize gay marriage. Members of Congress are trying to get the Constitution amended to prohibit same-sex marriage.
And the justification for all of this? That it will "destroy traditional marriage."
But as I pointed out in a later post, the concept of the "traditional nuclear family" is a myth. The "nuclear family" has never been traditional. It was an artificial construct that became an outgrowth of the Industrial Revolution and the exodus to the suburbs after WWII. Before that, families tended to live together in large groups. You can only have Mom, Dad, and the kids living alone in a house when those people can afford their own home. That didn't happen until recently.
Add into that the revolution in treatment of women since the 50s and it becomes clear that it is inappropriate to look at divorce rates in the 50s as some sort of standard which we should try to live up to again. When a woman couldn't own property outside of her husband, when a woman could only rarely earn a decent wage, what do you think that would do to the divorce rate? In this day and age, divorce is usually brought on by the wife (which shows another lie about men not wanting to get married...men are the ones who propose while women are the ones who divorce.) That's because she doesn't need a husband in order to keep herself out of poverty. That wasn't the case back in the 50s.
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Rrhain
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Buzsaw
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Message 54 of 253 (48684)
08-04-2003 8:52 PM
Reply to: Message 43 by Dan Carroll
08-04-2003 10:58 AM


quote:
Consider them pondered. What else you got?
Nothing for you Dan, until you wise up. You really haven't a clue and why waste my time and yours?

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Buzsaw
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Message 55 of 253 (48685)
08-04-2003 9:08 PM
Reply to: Message 33 by Rrhain
08-04-2003 4:58 AM


quote:
Didn't you read my post. I stated where I got it: The US Department of Justice:
Got a link? I'm not finding it.

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Dan Carroll
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Message 56 of 253 (48686)
08-04-2003 9:14 PM
Reply to: Message 54 by Buzsaw
08-04-2003 8:52 PM


quote:
Nothing for you Dan, until you wise up. You really haven't a clue and why waste my time and yours?
Message board rule #502:
Insults are easier than responses.

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truthlover
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Message 57 of 253 (48689)
08-04-2003 9:20 PM
Reply to: Message 40 by nator
08-04-2003 10:28 AM


Before I go reading the rest of your posts and whoever else has posted, let me say this up front.
I did not say that times are wonderful. I disagreed that people are unable to own a home in this country.
You are entirely correct that land and property values are pretty low around here. The idea of owning your own home is not so out of reach here as it might be in the bay area, where the house my parents bought for 75k in 1980 is worth over 300,000 now, even though it is a tiny 2-bedroom.
I didn't say that people can buy a home wherever they want in this country. I'm not imagining that I'll be owning a penthouse in New York in my lifetime, even if I wanted one.
I did say that a person willing to bear some hardships could still own a home in the US. I believe that's true.
Ok, on to reading the rest of the posts.

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truthlover
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Message 58 of 253 (48690)
08-04-2003 9:27 PM
Reply to: Message 42 by nator
08-04-2003 10:55 AM


All of this, I'm convinced, is because they were completely miserable in their marriage for a very, very long time. Things are basically the same now between the two of them, except my mother doesn't have the kids to scream at at any more, so she screams at him.
I'm sorry to hear that, and I have no problem believing that you might have been better off had your parents done something other than what they did, including divorce.
I do not think you are in the majority. Divorce has a hard effect on kids. Maybe not as hard an effect as parents with the difficulties yours had.
I'm also pretty sure that couples today get to the scream or divorce stage a lot quicker nowadays, because divorce is such a socially easy option. Couples faced with screaming forever or stopping are more likely to find a way to stop than a couple that can simply give up easily. Most people prefer to live in peace, and many will do so just out of care for their kids.
I'm sorry your parents didn't.

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truthlover
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Message 59 of 253 (48693)
08-04-2003 9:36 PM
Reply to: Message 44 by Dan Carroll
08-04-2003 11:01 AM


Honestly. Does anyone see divorce as something other than an occasionally necessary but unfortunate circumstance?
Yes, a hurt person sees a way out of their hurt as their right. An angry person sees actions that will let them vent their anger in a much more positive light than a non-angry person.
Divorce is much easier and much more socially acceptable in this country now than it was forty or fifty years ago. I think that's bad.
It's really not as simple as I'm stating it, I know. Every situation is different. But overall, when divorce is such an easy option it is taken much more quickly than it is otherwise.

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truthlover
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Message 60 of 253 (48694)
08-04-2003 9:40 PM
Reply to: Message 45 by Dr Jack
08-04-2003 11:08 AM


Yup. Another good reason we should encourage the spread of atheism: U.S. Divorce rates for various faith groups. You'll note that the research was carried out by a Christian organisation.
Yeah, Barna generally settles the case that Christianity as it is practiced in the Western world is a colossal failure.
However, your statement puzzles me a little. I found this quote on your link:
quote:
Ron Barrier, Spokespersonn for American Atheists remarked on these findings with some rather caustic comments against organized religion. He said: "These findings confirm what I have been saying these last five years. Since Atheist ethics are of a higher calibre than religious morals, it stands to reason that our families would be dedicated more to each other than to some invisible monitor in the sky.
Ok, so why then are the atheists busting my chops for suggesting that increasing divorce rates are bad? You can't have it both ways. Either it's a good thing ("higher calibre ethics") to avoid divorce or it's great that it's happening so much more nowadays. You can't have both.

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