I think a more appropriate rule than "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" would be "consider the preferences of others as you would like to have your preferences considered by them." Not all of us would have others treat us in exactly the same fashion.
Emery Emery (comic and host of the podcast Ardent Atheist. Great listen you should check it out) has modified this to his "platinum rule" which is almost identical to yours as it addresses this problem with the "golden rule".
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"Do unto others as they would have you do unto them".
It both addresses the fact that the golden rule harms the sadist as well as the masochist and it suggests humanity/getting to know people and what they want.
"Science is interesting, and if you don't agree you can fuck off." -Dawkins
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