Hi, Michael.
I don't have anything to add to what cavediver says. I will extend some of my previous comments, however.
I said that if you are willing to spend the time and effort (and the investment might be considerable), you can understand GR and/or particle physics as much as you want.
This might not be true. I am a mathematics instructor. I see a very large number of students who have only a limited capacity for abstract reasoning and thought of the type necessary to do well in mathematics. Comparing American students to students in other countries, I feel that this reflects prior preparation as well as a commitment to spend the time and effort to master the subject. I acknowledge that there are some who simply cannot, no matter what their efforts, ever really obtain a high level of mathematical skill. But I want to believe that these are a very small minority of people.
But I have to acknowledge the possibility that, just as only a very small number of poeple are biologically capable of becoming Olympic athletes, only a small number of people have the innate capabilities to really be able of the sort of hyper-abstraction required for mathematics. I don't think this is the case, and I hope not, but the possibility exists. In that case, it is possible that it is not possible for most people to really be able to understand GR or particle physics beyond a certain very simplistic level.
Also, there is the philosophical question of how much mathematical models really give us in terms of understanding reality. At one extreme would be the a more or less Platonic view in which the world
is mathematics. In that case, according to GR the universe is a 4 dimensional manifold with a non-positive definite metric, and so if you can conceptualize this then you understand what the true universe is like.
On the other hand, there is also the other extreme the universe is what it is, and the most mathematical models do for us is allow us to calculate very precise values for the results that we are supposed to measure without the mathematics really describing reality. In other words, modelling the universe as a 4 dimensional manifold in which time is just another coordinate just like the three spatial ones may allow us to very accurately predict gravitional lensing, and the existence of phenomena attributed to gravitational waves, but that is not the same thing as saying that time actually
is a coordinate just like the three spatial ones.
In the former case, understanding differential geometry and group theory and functional analysis and so forth does allow us to understand the universe. In the second case, understanding mathematics may give us some insight into how the universe works, but true reality will remain hidden behind the veil of
maya. I don't know which view is correct, or if the correct view is between these extremes, or even how to determine which view is correct.
Bah. Sorry for the philosophizing.
"Religion is the best business to be in. It's the only one where the customers blame themselves for product failure."
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