It seems like you are trying to have it both ways, although I will admit I am making some assumptions about your position to reach that conclusion; maybe you can set me straight. Let me re-post your paragraph from message XYZ:
iono writes:
I wouldn't concern myself about spending an eternity with God whilst currently loved ones perish in hell. That which makes a person attractive and good and worthwhile and loveable is the image of God in which they are made: God is good and worthwhile and attractive and loveable. That image will be removed from the person before they are cast into the pit. All that will remain attaching to them is the horror of their evil. There would be nothing about them to love anymore.
I take this to mean that you believe that we will not feel regret or sorrow or any other negative emotion from the fact that our (previous) loved ones are in Hell. I further assume that you believe that this is because there truly is no basis to feel those emotions, as opposed to God having taken away our memories or something similar.
OK, if my assumptions of your position are wrong, I apologize and you can ignore the rest of my post.
However, if this is your position, then I believe you ARE trying to have it both ways. If our heavenly selves know that there is nothing regrettable or sad about loved ones in Hell, then why should our present selves think any different?
To look at it from the other angle: if we presently SHOULD want our loved ones to surrender to God and avoid Hell, then that means that their being in Heaven is somehow better than being in Hell. And so if it turns out that it doesn’t happen that way, then that will be a reason for regret.
Edited by Aware Wolf, : grammar