Hi hooah,
hooah writes:
My problem is the way it comes across as though I am some evil son of a bitch.
She probably thinks more in the terms of a devil.
hooah writes:
Again, it's either I compromise with her, or else? Why are the religious that way? Is god that much of a prick? I am fairly certain Jesus would understand......
1. "Why are the religious that way?"
She believes in God, heaven, and the lake of fire.
Those who believe in God and meet His requirements will spend eternity in heaven.
Those who do not believe in God and meet His requirements will spend eternity in the lake of fire.
These things are just as real to her as they are unreal to you.
As far as I can tell from what you have written that is all she believes in.
She is not a good Catholic or she would not be living with you without being married to you. More than likely if the Church knew she would be excommunicated from the Church.
2. "Is god that much of a prick?"
God made you a free moral agent and gave you the ability to choose to believe anything you want to believe. Problem is He gave her the same choice.
3. "I am fairly certain Jesus would understand".
God and Jesus are one and the same just different manifestations of the one entity, and yes He understands.
Now to the real problem.
"Again, it's either I compromise with her, or else?"
What is the alternative?
I do not know how things are where you live but where I live your
alternatives would be very limited.
If you decided you could not compromise and cross the line she has already drawn you will end up in court. She would get full custody of the kids, and you would be required to pay child support. Since you are not married the court system here would limit your contact with the kids probably to every other weekend. This would limit your access to the kids to about 52 days a year.
Before you make too drastic of a decision I would suggest you talk to a lawyer in your area and maybe even a family councilor.
You do have some very hard decisions to make.
Keep in mind decisions you have already made in the past has brought you to this point. If you knew she believed in God before you began living with her it is no one's fault but your own.
So many people make the mistake of believing they can change the partner's belief to match theirs. The problem is 99% of the time that is impossible.
hooah writes:
Again, that is a compromise I, repeat, I, am willing to make. She can take the kids to church all she wants. Just don't chastize me for teaching them science-y stuff.
I really don't think you will have a problem teaching the kids things of science.
You will have a big problem when you try to teach them there is no God.
As far as she is concerned the Bible gives the how and why the universe exists.
Your science has no answer for either of those.
God Bless,
"John 5:39 (KJS) Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me."
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