The thing is, that would bring yet another child into this world with a broken family. Our oldest, her daughter, is from her previous relationship. The middle, my son, is from my previous marriage. The youngest, is ours together. We want to at least give one of them a childhood with both parents.
I agree, with both yours and Rahvin's posts.
Having given this a few days before replying, and, also the fact that I was having a little fun with my first post, I'd like to say this:
You kinda knew what you were getting into, right? I mean, she didn't keep any of this a secret and sprung it on you recently, right? You knew she was Christian and knew the mom?
If you did, then there isn't much you
can do.
You can try to present the "looks great on paper" argument that Rahvin suggested; try to make nice, explain it all in detail, show her that you will not poison her children with atheism, etc... but at the end of the day, if she says "na, I still want it my way" where do you go from there?
Reality is, when shit don't work it don't work. When two completely different ideologies want to instill their PoV's into one thing, sadly the only thing that suffers
is that thing.
So, IMHO, if your main concern is the kids, then I'd suggest only teaching them when she gives you the ok. If not, you'll be fighting her the entire time and the kids will carry the burden of two parents who have conflicting ideologies.
OR, like Buz seems to be suggesting, just pop her in the mouth and tell her to make you a sandwich, while you teach the kids about natural selection.
- Oni
On the real, good luck.