I think a lot of the heat from evos comes from discovering the depths of the irrationality in our opponents, and realising 'My God (insert deity of choice),these people could be living next door to me'.
This seems strange to me. Irrational or not, isn't it necessary to find a way to live respectfully with your neighbor? This seems to me more a reason why you should
avoid getting upset. Because coping mechanisms are part of what we need in real life.
Ben