Is that societally induced from a repressive religiosity?
yes.
I doubt you could say that when visiting native american tribes or pacific islanders or tribes in the amazon who don't understand these religious views, and yet, maintain an understanding of sacredness in chastity.
don't just say things like this. prove it.
what about the pacific islanders in which the men and boys live in a central lodge and have sex with each other and only go home to their wives (who own their own homes) to impregnate them?
i'd wager that you have no idea what you're talking about and are spouting bullshit you heard in church somewhere. but that's just my guess.
However, when a natural desire and those legitimate emotions are replaced with cheap substitutes
what
are you talking about?
no, i know what you're taling about, but it's bullshit.
An interesting parallel between rapists and serial killers is their penchant for pornography.
you know most serial killers' favourite ice cream is butter pecan? guess what mine is. oh shit!
an interesting parallel between rapists and serial killers is that they were abused as children. they seek to take back the power that was taken from them and express that in different ways. if it's not power they're seeking, generally, they're just insane. it's not because of the dopamine release and the need to have increased dopamine release everytime no matter what you or my mother say. why doesn't "normal" christian married sex create increased dopamine need? does god protect you from becoming serial killers?
But unless its checked and expressed in a healthy way, those natural inclinations can take on some dark aberrations.
healthy does not mean think about baseball and go back to your studies.
The only thing that these people want protected is the sacredness of sex and love. When it loses its sacredness, it turns into a cheap substitute that often leaves the person still wanting.
then teach the sacredness of love and sex. this is found in realizing the importance of giving pleasure and kindness to another person, not waiting till you're married so you can bone her viciously and wait around for her to tell you she has a headache. it has nothing to do with making babies. it has nothing to do with worshipping god. it has to do with seeking first the pleasure of another and being wondrously surprised when they do the same and please you. this can be found in marriage (i hope) in a friendship, in a dating scenario, and so forth. it is when you come across someone who isn't interested in seeking your pleasure as much as you are interested in seeking his that it becomes "cheapened". sex is how we procreate. it is also one of the ways we bond and form small tribal groups. you are more affectionate with your close friends than with others right? what's to stop that from being sexual in a different time when we didn't have fifty thousand preachers telling us that sexual expression is sinful? i don't know if you've read your bible recently, but that's what it says. okay maybe not sinful but undesireable. paul, that dear asshole that founded christianity, said that it is preferable to remain celibate, but okay to marry and bone a woman to keep from sinning. why? because he was talking to men and women are not important and have nothing to contribute. albeit he later contradicts himself, but then what good religous leader doesn't?
you want sacredness in your sex? teach your children to respect themselves and others enough to admit and healthily express themselves and always use care and protection. teach them to ask about testing and teach them about how sex works. if it is open and honest and not dark, secret, and sinful, it doesn't cause these things. you do know that people lived in one bedroom houses until very recently, right? and children slept in the same room as their parents who were boinking, right? i'm not suggesting you do this. it might result in a healthy child in other situations, but not in this culture. but be honest and open with them. generally expression leads to sex play and not actual sex. in fact, most children engage in sex play on their own. of course we generally beat them for it and shame them and then they end up cold and dispassionate when we actually allow them to get married.
no, no, porn causes depravity.
now, i'm willing to agree that much porn creates an artificial world in which men dominate. but i'd wager that it's because of the audience. the actual industry is run by women and probably the single most empowering industry there is. but this doesn't change the face that she gets it in the face and he doesn't. but this is due to the secretive nature of it. if you put it all in the dark, then the dark parts are free to be expressed. but then when you think dark bits you think bondage and homosexuality and when i think dark bits i think abuse, murder, rape, incest... but then i'm just a crazy liberal.
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