Or is that the catch? I can say that the "light" from the event is in our future, but not the event itself?
The event is relative to which point is being taken. The event happened in the past but to us the event is futuristic ie:
Suppose a star went supernova in 1509 CE the star is 500 light years away so we wont see the event until some time in 2009. The event happened 499 years ago but to us it will have happened in 1909 when the photons reach us. Relative to us the event hasn't occurred.
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Who gave anyone the authority to call me an authority on anything. WT Young, 1969