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Author Topic:   Polygamy that involves child abuse - Holmes, Randman, CS?
Stile
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Message 46 of 126 (462948)
04-10-2008 6:30 PM
Reply to: Message 44 by Blue Jay
04-10-2008 5:44 PM


I like that
I have absoluetly nothing to argue with in your last message. And I agree, the conversation certainly did evolve.
I do have a few notes, of course
Thylacosmilus writes:
If only a small fraction of people abuse the right to polygamy...
I'm wondering if you can identify a single way, even if only theoretically possible, that the 'right to polygamy' can be abused.
Remember, polygamy is functionally exactly the same as polyamory. And polyamory is totally legal right now. That means, if you're afraid of polygamy creating an environent for abuse of women... that environment already exists under current law.
Polyamory is simply polygamy without the title of "marriage".
I still think polygamy should be legalized as it has no effect on anything at all. The entire functionality of polygamy (polyamory) is currently alive and well in our society (Canada and the US). We may as well add the simple title. Can you think of any possible reason at all to refuse adding a name for something that already fully exists within society?
They don't have the right to stay away from the authorities, though: with a warrant, the police and the FBI can go anywhere within US borders.
I entirely agree
Thanks for pointing out exactly how this FLDS sect would have been taken down if polygamy were made legal.
I understand legal polygamy is being considered in Canada.
Really? Cool. I'm interested in the results as well.

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molbiogirl
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Message 47 of 126 (462949)
04-10-2008 6:35 PM
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04-10-2008 6:30 PM


Re: I like that
Really? Cool. I'm interested in the results as well.
Not so much.
Currently, under section 293 of Canada’s criminal code, polygamy is expressly outlawed. A 2005 study for the Canadian federal Justice Department, Polygamy in Canada: Legal and Social Implications for Women and Children, recommended abolishing laws criminalizing polygamy. Arguing from the basis that polygamy laws serve no purpose and are rarely prosecuted, Bailey et. al. (2005) recommend that the government repeal section 293 of the Criminal Code that outlaws polygamy. While they acknowledge that polygamous relationships are overwhelmingly a bastion of abuse towards women and towards children, Bailey et. al. contend that “if there are problems such as child abuse, or spousal abuse, there are other criminal provisions or other laws dealing with those problems that certainly should be enforced.”
By now we’re all aware of Canada’s very own FLDS community in Bountiful, BC, a place BC Authorities would sooner forget. This week, Vancouver lawyer Leonard Doust issued a report suggesting that the best way to deal with polygamy in Bountiful, BC was to refer section 293 of the Criminal Code to the courts to test its constitutionality, rather than prosecute individuals first. Arguably, this test of constitutionality would be in the context of freedom of religion. However, our courts must also be aware of our obligations under international law to prohibit polygamy. According to the Committee on the Elimination of Discrimination Against Women (1994):
Polygamous marriage contravenes a woman’s right to equality with men, and can have such serious emotional and financial consequences for her and her dependents that such marriages ought to be discouraged and prohibited. The Committee notes with concern that some States parties, whose constitutions guarantee equal rights, permit polygamous marriage in accordance with personal or customary law. This violates the constitutional rights of women . (qtd. in ACLRC, 2004: 9).
As states party to the Convention on the Elimination of all forms of Discrimination Against Women, Canada has an international obligation to consider the impacts of polygamy on women when determining the legality of marriages.
And it seems there is increasing recognition across Canada that the harms of polygamy outweigh any arguments of religious freedom:
Both Mr. Peck and Mr. Oppal say they are confident that Section 293 could survive a religious freedom challenge under the Charter. “There is a substantial body of scholarship,” Mr. Peck observes, “supporting the position that polygamy is harmful,” and that limits on polygamous practice could thus be found “reasonable” by the Supreme Court.
http://www.littlemissbrightside.com/?p=156

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Stile
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Message 48 of 126 (462950)
04-10-2008 6:38 PM
Reply to: Message 45 by molbiogirl
04-10-2008 6:24 PM


Re: More proof of my point
Notice anything?
2003, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2008.
Did you notice anything? Not a single one of your quotes mentioned "polygamy" or even "polyamory". Thanks for proving my point, again.
molbiogirl writes:
They have been practicing polyamory for over 100 years.
And the U.S. is tired of it. And it will stop.
I think you are mistaken. Polyamory is constitutionally protected. I believe it's the First Amendment, even.
What you mean to say is that the US is tired of their abuse, and the US will stop their abuse.
Like your quote says:
molbiogirl on the evils of the FLDS writes:
Allegations of welfare fraud, militant organizations, incest, statutory rape, physical, emotional and psychological abuse have been widely reported in American media
That's what the US is tired of.
That's what the US is going to stop.
And I fully agree.
Notice there is no mention of polygamy or polyamory. That's not the issue. The problem is with the abuse, even your quotes agree with me.

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molbiogirl
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Message 49 of 126 (462951)
04-10-2008 6:51 PM
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04-10-2008 6:38 PM


Re: More proof of my point
Did you notice anything? Not a single one of your quotes mentioned "polygamy" or even "polyamory".
Look a little closer. "One count of bigamy". And, tho the wiki article didn't make specific mention of polyamory re: the 8 men that were convicted ...
Eight hit with teen bride sex charges
http://www.rickross.com/reference/polygamy/polygamy359.html
And I'm sure you are aware of the Warren Jeffs. He was convicted for ...
... his arrangement of extralegal marriages between his adult male followers and underage girls.
You can try and split hairs and say, "But they were underaged!" That's just the crow bar the law is using to destroy this cult.
It's all about the polyamory, dude. It's just a walk-in-the-park to bust the child rapists, that's all.
What you mean to say is that the US is tired of their abuse, and the US will stop their abuse.
Nope. FLDS polyamory is the functional equivalent of polygamy. And it will be stopped.
Notice that the legal inroads are getting bigger and bigger?
From one, to eight, to the leader of the cult, to four hundred and six.
The U.S. is prosecuting polyamorists, because they are functionally polygamists.
ABE:
Remember. They busted Capone for tax fraud. You use what you can to bring down the bad boys.
Edited by molbiogirl, : No reason given.

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Stile
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Message 50 of 126 (462952)
04-10-2008 7:13 PM
Reply to: Message 49 by molbiogirl
04-10-2008 6:51 PM


Re: More proof of my point
It's all about the polyamory, dude. It's just a walk-in-the-park to bust the child rapists, that's all.
If you say so. Let's see, we have a community committing lots of rape and abuse and polygamy. I say they're going to jail over the rape and abuse. You say they're being prosecuted because of the polygamy? Awesome.
Look a little closer. "One count of bigamy".
Exactly. "Bigamy", not "polygamy". Polygamy is also illegal (currently, anyway). But you're saying they're being chased because of the polygamy. So.. if they're so involved in polygamy, and the US is so trying to prosecute polygamists... why wouldn't they simply charge them with the polygamy? The fact that they didn't really undercuts your position. Polygamy is certainly not the top of their list if they file a ton of charges against known polygamists and don't charge them with actual polygamy, which they're certainly capable of.
Nope. FLDS polyamory is the functional equivalent of polygamy. And it will be stopped.
Notice that the legal inroads are getting bigger and bigger?
From one, to eight, to the leader of the cult, to four hundred and six.
Excellent. Fantastic. The FLDS should be stopped. And it's wonderfull to hear that it has nothing to do with it being polyamorous or polygamist.
The U.S. is prosecuting polyamorists, because they are functionally polygamists.
Not even close.
The US is prosecuting these FLDS polyamorists because they are abusing other people. I have my proof in the very quotes that you provided.
Of course, it's simple to prove your stance as well.
If the US truly is "prosecuting polyamorists, because they are functionally polygamists", then there must be plenty of cases where the US is prosecuting polyamorists that do not abuse others, or engage in any other illegal activity.
It's easy to show your stance, all you have to do is show one instance where the US is prosecuting anyone involved in polyamorous activity without being engaged in something else that's also ridiculously evil (like rape and child abuse).
There should be plenty of polyamorous activists going to jail on tax evasion, or jay walking, or unpaid parking tickets.
All you have to do is find a single instance where the US is persuing someone with polygamy being their greatest illegal activity.
But there isn't. That's because what you're saying is completely against reality.
The US is only chasing after polygamists who are raping people, and abusing children. Sounds to me like they're trying to protect people from getting raped, or children from being abused.

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Message 51 of 126 (462953)
04-10-2008 7:33 PM
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04-10-2008 7:13 PM


Re: More proof of my point
"Bigamy", not "polygamy".
Bigamy: 2
Polygamy: more than 2
Bigamy is a subset of polygamy.
All you have to do is find a single instance where the US is persuing someone with polygamy being their greatest illegal activity.
Ask and ye shall receive.
The bigamy conviction of Mr. Green, who has five wives and has fathered 30 children, is likely to have ramifications for other polygamists throughout the West, who now may face prosecution, lawyers say.
In court papers, David O. Leavitt, the Juab County attorney, charged that Mr. Green had been able to elude prosecution by marrying without state sanction. But he told the court he was basing his prosecution on the legal argument that Mr. Green had made no effort to hide his wedded relations and that "a solemnized marriage otherwise valid is not rendered invalid by failure to meet licensing requirements."
Not Found - The New York Times
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Message 52 of 126 (462976)
04-11-2008 1:01 AM


Holmes, Randman, CS?
I would like to bring your attention to the thread title. Since these three in the other thread were the biggest supporters for "hands off" government policy regarding religious "freedom" even at the cost of the lives of little children, I would really like to see their input about this polygamy issue involving parents forcing their little girls to marry and have sex with much older men. Like I said before, I'm trying to understand the mentality behind what I would personally describe as cold and heartless attitude toward the most helpless members of our society, which are the children, all in the name of "religious freedom".
Edited by Taz, : No reason given.

I'm trying to see things your way, but I can't put my head that far up my ass.

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Message 53 of 126 (462987)
04-11-2008 7:44 AM
Reply to: Message 46 by Stile
04-10-2008 6:30 PM


Re: I like that
Stile writes:
Polyamory is simply polygamy without the title of "marriage".
I still think polygamy should be legalized as it has no effect on anything at all. The entire functionality of polygamy (polyamory) is currently alive and well in our society (Canada and the US). We may as well add the simple title.
Can you think of any possible reason at all to refuse adding a name for something that already fully exists within society?
Perhaps I can. I don't know if the institution of marriage there attracts privileges and rights from the state but it does so in Ireland. If you added the name marriage to to polymory then you would also add the rights associated with the name.
That is to say: the reason to not simply add the title is that it is not simply a title. Not in Ireland at any rate.

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Message 54 of 126 (462997)
04-11-2008 9:36 AM
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04-10-2008 7:33 PM


Re: More proof of my point
molbiogirl writes:
Ask and ye shall receive.
Thanks, but I don't think you checked the date of your own source.
quote:
Published: May 20, 2001
molbiogirl's source writes:
is likely to have ramifications for other polygamists throughout the West, who now may face prosecution
Obviously not. It's been 7 years since then. Have any of these "likely ramifications" come to pass? No. None at all. Thanks again for proving my point that the US is NOT out to get polygamists. Or, at least, hasn't been in the last 7 years. I totally agree with you that many years ago this was the way the US worked, though.

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Stile
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Message 55 of 126 (462998)
04-11-2008 9:44 AM
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04-11-2008 7:44 AM


Re: I like that
iano writes:
Perhaps I can. I don't know if the institution of marriage there attracts privileges and rights from the state but it does so in Ireland. If you added the name marriage to to polymory then you would also add the rights associated with the name.
Yes, you are correct, there are some government benefits involved (or, at least, I suspect there would be if it were made legalized).
So, we have evil being polyamorous and abusing others. Legally.
And we have good people being polyamorous who do not get the benefits.
Your point is that we shouldn't give the benefits to those good people?
What is the point of refusing the benefits to the evil people? They're doing the evil right now. And it's totally legal. Adding the benefits doesn't allow them to do more evil. It doesn't attract more people into being evil. Anyone who wants to do that evil can do so under the current law already.
Therefore, the only point in refusing the benefits, is to not give it to the good people. Since it has no effect whatsoever on the evil that's being done.
That's your idea? Restrict the rights of good, innocent people? Just because you want to?
That doesn't sound like a very reasonable idea to me.
Edited by Stile, : Fixed wording

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Stile
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Message 56 of 126 (463000)
04-11-2008 9:53 AM
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04-11-2008 1:01 AM


Re: Holmes, Randman, CS?
Taz writes:
I would like to bring your attention to the thread title. Since these three in the other thread were the biggest supporters for "hands off" government policy regarding religious "freedom" even at the cost of the lives of little children, I would really like to see their input about this polygamy issue involving parents forcing their little girls to marry and have sex with much older men.
This is a good point. Perhaps I have hijacked this thread for long enough.
The argument I'm having with people isn't so much over "if" these people should be punished, that seems to be universally agreed on. I'm more arguing over "why" they should be punished.

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iano
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Message 57 of 126 (463004)
04-11-2008 10:20 AM
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04-11-2008 9:44 AM


Re: I like that
iano writes:
I don't know if the institution of marriage there attracts privileges and rights from the state but it does so in Ireland. If you added the name marriage to to polymory then you would also add the rights associated with the name.
Stile writes:
So, we have evil being polyamorous and abusing others. Legally. And we have good people being polyamorous who do not get the benefits. Your point is that we shouldn't give the benefits to those good people?
Nope. My point was to remind you that there is more to marriage than mere title. Because of that, there exists reasons to consider whether or not to extend the rights associated with marriage to polyamorous relationships. Good or bad doesn't come into it.
Therefore, the only point in refusing the benefits, is to not give it to the good people. Since it has no effect whatsoever on the evil that's being done.
Not extending the benefits would have an effect on both 'good' and 'evil' relationships. For example, neither good nor evil parties (in Ireland) would enjoy inheritance tax breaks. An example of there being something more to marriage than mere title.
My point was a narrow one, made to deal with the question you posed in isolation. Not in response to the issue of preventing 'evil' occurring.
Edited by iano, : No reason given.

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Message 58 of 126 (463009)
04-11-2008 10:28 AM
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04-09-2008 4:22 PM


Re: More Rambling
Sorry for the delayed response...I was off fishing again all day yesterday (did terrible ).
Anyway...you're doing the same basic thing you're accusing me of doing.
Do you have citations and/or evidence supporting your claim that stopping polygamy will not reduce abuse of women?
Stile writes:
Out of all men who abuse women, I'd guess that very few of those men are actually in a polygamous relationship.
A better question would be...
Of males in a polygamous relationship, how many of them "abuse" women?
Or...worded another way...
What percentage of polygamous relationships DO NOT result in the abuse of at least one of the women in the relationship?
Stile writes:
And, again, if we remove that polygamous relationship, those men will continue to abuse women. Again, this has NO IMPACT WHATSOEVER on the amount of women being abused.
Do you have proof of this?
It is my contention that polygamy encourages abuse of women and children. My evidence for this is what we are seeing in the news media right now. I'm also saying that you can in no way make the claim that this situation would have occurred regardless if the FLDS allowed polygamy or not. We don't know that, because the FLDS did allow (hell, it encourage and/or required) polygamy. To say things would have been different had polygamy not been allowed is a claim you absolutely cannot make.
And this may sound callus, but I am of the opinion that most males that are currently abusing their wives (girlfriends, significant other...whatever) are, "thankfully?" only abusing one. They can't abuse more because polygamy is illegal. Do you not agree that these types of assholes would get a big giant hard-on at the possibility of entering a legalized polygamous relationship?
That's why I'm saying...
...as it stands now...currently... in this day and age...in this REAL World, polygamy results in a higher number of women being abused by assholes. I'm saying that men seeking out a polygamous relationship are doing so with the intention of abusing women and children. Who knows...maybe at some later date, men looking for a polygamous relationship will, by and large, not be abusive assholes...but right now, that's not the way I see it.
Remember, polygamy is being encouraged almost exclusively by religious sects and...correct me if I'm wrong...most of these religions are male dominated. That is to say, the religion is set up by males for the benefits of males. And polygamy is one of the things they (the males) want. Why is that? Well, they want power over their "weaker" women. Polygamy is simply one way to get, and then hold on to, that power.

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Message 59 of 126 (463014)
04-11-2008 11:30 AM
Reply to: Message 52 by Taz
04-11-2008 1:01 AM


Re: Holmes, Randman, CS?
Hi Taz,
I think the gov. should stop these poeple from sexually abusing these girls.
I don't really support a "hands off" government policy regarding religious "freedom".
The differences between this and the other thread is that in the other thread, the parents chose to offer prayer as a method for treating their child's illness. They tried to help and it was thier child. I don't think the gov. should come in and force them to use a different method because of both their religious freedom and family sovereignty. I just think it is their choice.
In this case, though, these men are taking the children of other families so the whole family sovereignty thing is out. Plus, they aren't trying to help the girl by offering some inferior method of something. They are trying to get more 'wives'.
So with those differences, I can support the gov. stepping in on this case while not the other.

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Message 60 of 126 (463015)
04-11-2008 11:32 AM
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04-11-2008 10:28 AM


Re: More Rambling
I was off fishing again all day yesterday (did terrible ).
Maybe you should have tried worms instead of flies....
Just kidding.

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