If you'll look carefully, you'll note that the forum description for dates and dating states: "Single and looking? Too bad, you've come to the wrong place. But if you want to discuss the Rock of Ages and the ages of rocks then this is the forum for you!"
In fact, I think you're on the wrong website. Maybe if you wanted to frame it in terms of the evolution cheating behavior as a violation of Triver's Reciprocal Altruism hypothesis, you might get some takers. I'm not trying to make light of your problem - it's a toughy. However, I think you might have taken a wrong turn at Albuquerque...