Questioning morality

This is a new topic I open up by transferring a post I made elsewhere to here.I propose a plausible moral dilemma using the idea that God only allows for people who are "saved in christ" as some have suggested.You are the father/mother of a child who is raped by a close relative or friend and your child grows up into adulthood rejecting your beliefs and never does accept christ into their lives and,despondent from the rape, subsequently commits suicide. During the course of their lives the close friend /relative does choose christ to enter into their lives and to the day he/she dies does good deeds.
By the conditions stated could you as a believer in christ accept existence in heaven with the person who raped your child while your child is in hell?Where do christians hold their morals when it comes to this kind of choice?

Barlowgirl and MTW. My question was could YOU live with your child not being in heaven while the man/woman who raped him/her was.You might pause to wonder if having been raped did not weigh in the decision to commit suicide.[This message has been edited by sidelined, 10-16-2003]

Then is this a hypothetical situation on morals which you may enter?

When you have children think back to this post and see if you have the same point of view.

My point in posting this was to ascertain if you would find God to be of more importance to you in your life than your own blood.It was a simple question to gauge how I view my family and the importance of that in relation to you and your worldview.Thank you for your input.[This message has been edited by sidelined, 10-16-2003]