The 'reflected back part' was a reference to your
immediate 'It's not real' response. You say things
like 'How do you know?' which is equally well directed
back to you as a question of whether or not you know otherwise.
Yes I know about cold-reading, and have observed it first hand.
I have also seen self-proclaimed mediums drawing complete
blanks from audience members, and then found non-targetted
audience members who admit afterward that the refernces
seemed familiar to them. (Coincidence maybe, who knows?)
Since there is little well performed research in the area,
all I am saying is that we cannot have sufficient information
at present to make the determination.
Just because we are taught that something is (or isn't) the
case, doesn't mean it is ... does it?