What an odd comment. Is your moral code a secret?
I watched Saving Private Ryan last night. A great line from it springs to mind:
"Its like looking for a needle in a stack of needles"
I had gathered that Jars moral code (gleaned from many posts on the matter) involved trying ones best. Not getting it right all the time but trying to get it right. Presumably then, Jar would fail to do the called for thing from time to time. And would employ some lame excuse at the time on the road to failing to do the called for thing.
What Jar would probably admit to that your failing to grab the bull by the horns is something he himself does. That there is no judgementalism going on because he fails in the very same way - just using different excuses than you do.